Thursday, 18 February 2010

Comfort

The desire to protect our loved ones from the things that could hurt them is one most of us have. We shield our precious people from as many knocks as we can, acting as a buffer between them and harsh reality. When you love someone it is often the case that you are able to manage your own pain for better than you could manage theirs. That's why I understood entirely when my mother said she hadn't mentioned anything earlier. They didn't want to worry me. No point in getting everyone upset before all the facts were established.

And I was not to worry now, she said. Many men of my father's age develop prostate cancer and, with treatment, go on to die of something entirely unrelated years further down the line. The consultant was lovely and very positive. So not to worry.

I am worried. Of course. I won't let on. My desire to protect my loved ones is as strong as theirs.

6 comments:

Sulpicia said...

Oh, Luka. It IS one of those cancers that is very treatable/curable. Not that that is going to curb biscuit-eating, worry, and wanting to protect... My heart goes out to you and your family. XS

Helga Hansen said...

I wouldn't let a few biscuits worry you - hopefully things will be a little brighter for you soon. xx

Ro said...

Fingers crossed that everything turns out as well as can be expected.

Isn't it amazing, though, how hard we often find it to predict an optimistic future in these circumstances, however shiny and bright our facades may be.

Now, go and find a nice tub of ice cream to bury your face in ;-)

ceeej said...

It's not an easy thing to deal with, wherever you are in the equation but it is one of the cancers that can be treated with excellent long term results so there's another set of fingers crossed here for your dad as well.

Oh and by the way, the biscuits mean nothing in the grand scheme of things but the Caramel ChewChew and PhishPhood are mine OK?

Luka said...

Thank you all. I appreciate the good wishes and in order to keep myself in good health and high spirits am now supplementing the all biscuit diet with lashings of Pinot Grigio.

nursemyra said...

Hope your dad remains well for a very very long time