I don't fit into a role. I have traits, but none that I want to define me.
There are those that assume I must be Dominant, and I am.
There are those that assume I have a submissive side, and I do.
There are those who think this puts a tick in the "switch" box, but it doesn't.
I just don't care enough about these things to put in the effort required to fill the position.
When arsing around on a site like Fet Life, for example, people can expect too much of you if they assume you to be Dominant. "Tell me what you want to do to me," is a variation on a familiar cry. Well, nothing, really. Maybe send you down the shops for a Cornetto, do a bit of dusting. I dont know you well enough to have any strong feelings one way or another. What I can tell you though is that I'm not going to spew forth an erotic fetish fantasy on demand. I'm not a fucking freebie equivalent of rent-a-wank. Honestly.
But then again, I dislike the Dominant approach too, when the opposite assumption is made. When someone I don't know gives me their "approval" and tries to be all masterful. Fuck off.
I suppose the point is that there are still so many people who are not prepared to put in any effort with regards to getting to know someone. They have a fantasy and all they want to do is project it onto a willing blank canvas somewhere. "Ah," they think, "you have spiked heels! You'll do. Tell me how you want to walk all over me in those shoes, how you want me to lick them clean and then how you'll make me wear your knickers under my suit when we go to the library."
But that is their fantasy, not mine. They don't know mine because they haven't asked. Which is a shame, as it's really rather good.