There may be a misconception that I do not respect that which I lampoon.
While I will merrily parody posts and styles of those blogs that catch my eye, I do have my own set of boundaries I simply will not cross.
One of the many reasons I choose to pick on sex blogs is that by their very nature they are not particularly personal. I am aware of the paradox. Surely they are posting some of the most personal information imaginable? Well, to a point. They are sharing their fantasies, their preferences for what they like to stick where and how good it feels when they do so. They do not, as a rule, share very much about the real life person behind the endlessly, and unrealistically, routinely perfect sex scenes. You don't hear much about their favourite meals, what they did at work today, their pets, their children, their home. You certainly don't see images of such. What pictures you do see on sex blogs are either generic soft porn or a neatly cropped self portrait of an anonymous body part.
What sex bloggers choose to share with the world at large is filtered, selected and untraceable. Those who submit to Sugasm or receive a Fleshbotting are those who willingly seek out thousands of new readers, who want the pitter-patter of many feet heading their way.
When I tease sex bloggers, I do so in a non-specific way. No links, no names. If you can guess who I might be parodying, that's fine, but I won't direct you to their sites.
I satirise sex blogs because it truly isn't personal and, to my great delight and to their great credit, most of the sex bloggers I know have a wonderful sense of humour and are the first to laugh at themselves. So, contrary to what some may think, I have a great deal of respect for my chosen topics of humour. Unfortunately, the reverse does not always hold true.
My own code of honour means that personal blogs (those that feature home, work, family life and suchlike) are off limits. We all have a lot of personal information out there, on Facebook, MySpace, Flickr and private blogs or journals. It is the modern way to socialise and network these days. I, like many others, have such a site, not well publicised, mainly a place for distant friends and family to check in and see what I'm up to at work and home. I have many reasons for keeping it entirely separate from my online Boudoir persona, as I'm sure all of you with similar set-ups will appreciate.
If we choose to share, behind the scenes, our personal information with others we are laying ourselves open to potential exposure and damage. To do so is an exercise in trust. You have to be very sure that the person who knows the real you will respect your privacy and not betray your confidence.
I speak from experience here, as I misplaced my faith.
There are those who would argue, so what? So what if they took a couple of their mates to have a look at my personal site? I take the piss out of them all the time, I deserve it. Now I know what it feels like to be laid low, brought down, through what I write online. Tough titty.
There may be an element of truth to that. Still, I never set foot in home and hearth territory and I never will. I do not peer over other people's garden fences, I do not peek through bathroom windows. I have some respect, you see.